Alan Dawrst wrote:Yeah, but what about women before modern medicine? I guess you could argue they could have been pressured into it by their husbands...
Yes, reproductive rights weren't exactly a female privilege historically.
Certain systems just switch on at certain times and suppress other systems.
Yes. I also think that people like Robin Hanson and Dan Ariely make convincing cases about motivational inconsistencies in human psychology. Ariely ("Predictably Irrational") shows some nice illustrative cases of this. He also points out that states like sexual arousal vs. non-arousal have what he calls a Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde dynamic to them. People clearly often act impulsively against their rational self-interest (or cognitive moral beliefs). There is also time-discounting of future (dis)utility.
It could also be that the same biases that produce rosy retrospection operate in order to make women feel that "it was all worth it" afterward. I read one forum about the pain of pregnancy where pretty much everyone said, "Yes, it was one of the worst [sometimes, the worst] pain I've ever felt, but it was worth it for what I got at the end."
Could be rational though. People clearly differ in their cognitive estimate of how relevant pain avoidance is to them in comparison to other values. I sometimes ask exemplary hedonistic trade-off questions to random people on the internet, examples of "how much reward would you need for this-and-that suffering?" and the results usually fluctuate all over the place. People often don't really know what they want, answers shift with mood, personal philosophy, self-image, framing effects, individual differences etc. It's one reason why making an actual numerical felicific calculus is hard to do and never satisfies everyone.
Then there are culturally programmed cached responses. People say cliché things they think people in their situation would/should say. I remember a bizarre case where a woman who abandoned her baby in the cold of winter after secretly having it was interviewed in prison. She hadn't wanted to be pregnant and didn't want her boyfriend to know. So she disposed of the child. When the clearly morally outraged interviewer asked her how she had felt when she first saw her newborn child, she responded with the cliché "It's the most beautiful thing ever" - even though she hadn't wanted the child and was in prison for abandoning it outside in the winter!
I talked to a few mothers yesterday and got two responses about the pain of pregnancy, "it wasn't as bad as people had claimed it would be", and "I don't really remember how bad it felt". That woman compared it to breaking a bone in the past and no longer being able to remember exactly how bad it was.